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Post by Chiro on Sept 26, 2006 2:16:49 GMT 3
Never tell a guy you don't want commitment... there are plenty of guys out there who want to be casual, and even if its too early too commit, pretend you are committed too (just like him) and if it works, great, if it doesn't, no big deal... but what happened to mish would hurt  |
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Post by marats on Sept 26, 2006 9:03:21 GMT 3
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Post by indiangal on Sept 26, 2006 10:33:11 GMT 3
thanx chiro...!!!!! i knw the scenario sucks...the worse is helplessness.... neways.....i aint thinkin bout it...tis destiny!!!!!!!!!  |
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Post by indiangal on Sept 26, 2006 10:38:23 GMT 3
bt chiro!!!!
i was tryin to be brutally honest...i mean tell the guy d honest truth....
n lol...it backfired......
next time around on my very first date i gonna say - " me totally in for commitments"
lol...
yeha I KNW...i wnt have date for nodr 5 years...
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Post by bia2209 on Sept 29, 2006 19:29:40 GMT 3
Clearly, that last topic didn't inspire anyone...  So let's try something else... "Between a Rock and a Hard Place." What is the hardest choice you've ever had to make? Torn between friends and family? Between staying or going? Choosing between the devil you know or the devil you don't. Confess all in the temple of TGFR. ;D |
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Post by Annie on Sept 30, 2006 22:28:09 GMT 3
Choices choices choices.... we make them every day, numerous times a day. Sometimes they are really silly like tuna or chicken sandwich for lunch? or shall I buy this top in black or white? But sometimes these choices are life dependant Shall I say yes or no to this job offer? Shall I marry him or shall I not marry him? Shall I tell him I love him or wait for him to tell me first? Our life consists of choices and at times we just don't feel like making them...sometimes I sit and think I grew up too quickly and I want my Mummy and Daddy to keep making those choices for me but I know it's not possible anymore  But the thing that scares me most is the fact that soon (hopefully) when I have a baby there will be a sustantial amount of years in my life when I will have to make choices for someone else and their whole lives will depend on my choices.... wow..... |
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Post by tina on Sept 30, 2006 23:50:39 GMT 3
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Post by marats on Oct 3, 2006 18:56:57 GMT 3
Oh i see it you are one that always ...........................   |
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Post by katrin on Oct 4, 2006 18:10:46 GMT 3
Guys, mind getting back to some confessions?
Annie’s put it well about choices – we make them every day, practically every minute. They may be hard, or easy….I have a motto about choices – if you are to choose of two evils, choose the one you haven’t tried. That’s about everything. No perfume left? I’ll go and buy the one I haven’t worn. Dropping into a restaurant? I’ll choose a dish, I haven’t tasted. The same thing occurred three years ago, when I were to enter the uni. I’ve never thought I’ll study PR and Linguistics. I actually attended preparation courses for the economic faculty, and it seemed quite interesting for me, but then I got the opportunity to choose b/w two faculties I’ve entered – economics (after great efforts) and linguistics (accidentally=))…I made a decision almost on the spot, in half an hour.
But in love and friendship this motto doesn’t work…At least I try to reduce the amount of situations, when I act according to it. Once I was given a chance to decide – forgive one of my friends, who I knew for a very-very long time, or to stop communicating with her forever. I chose the last one, and sometimes now, during fits of pessimism, I think it was kinda wrong choice.
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Post by love15 on Oct 5, 2006 4:36:58 GMT 3
ah choices, decisions, i dont like making them, dude, i cant even pick between a latte or a mocha, lettalone life changing choices, but its a part of life i guess. Right now i have to make choices and decisions. Ive finished school, my exams are weeks away, im sitting here at tgfr (LOL) and my final marks have the potential to effect my direction in life. Do i work my arse off and try to get these marks so i can get into uni straight away? i dont have it in me, and i have this feeling i wont get there, so why put the effort in? should i instead enrol into tafe, find a job, travel, and then enter Uni as a mature age student? man, you could give me a perfect score and i still wouldnt know what to choose. If i was accepted, do i go to my local uni, which i currently believe offers nothing i want ( yeah im picky... lol im just confused), or commute to another campus which offers more desirable degrees? and then there is my family 'do what you feel is best', yet of course they want me to stay close to home.... hmmm got me thinking. i dont know if i exactly met the criteria for the topic, as i havnt made my choice yet. But i hope whatever happens, it will all eventually fall in place, for everyone |
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Post by reese on Oct 5, 2006 23:52:51 GMT 3
this reminds me of last year when I finished school and had to decide where I want to study. should I stay home or leave town.. well it wasn´t easy for my cause on the one side I had my family, friends and the environment I grew up. one the other side I could make new experiences, live in a big city etc. weird thing was I always wanted to move to another city for studying but when time has come I was unsure about it. well for one year I´m living in a new city and it was a good decision! I found new friends and a new home and I´m so happy about it. sometimes its sad that I see my family and old friends so rarely but I have no regrets about my decision. ;D ;D it´s difficult sometimes to make choices - but they have to be done. I can´t hide behind my parents forever (even if I want to sometimes ). I or we all have to take matters into our own hands. ;D ;D |
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Post by bia2209 on Oct 8, 2006 16:20:22 GMT 3
;D ;D ;D New topic people!! Things are hopefully gonna heat up in this thread.
Have you ever cheated or been cheated on?? Did you forgive or were you forgiven.
Can you ever really put something like that behind you? Is love really strong enough to conquer all??
Confess all!! ;D ;D
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Post by LaFFy TaFFy on Oct 8, 2006 16:39:28 GMT 3
have i ever cheated, no
have i been cheated on, yes
it was so hard, my heart was so broken cause i really loved this guy, but i forgave him cause i was young and dumb and soooo in love, but i never could trust him, was always wondering what he was doing, who was he with. That just drove me crazy and in the end he cheated on me again, f#@% arshole, And the funny thing is, is that if i ever looked at a guy he would get so angry with me,lol
After that found it hard to trust guys, but not all guys are like that, was just scared to open up my heart again and get it trampled on.
About 5 years later when i had forgotten bout this guy, he came to see me at work and he wanted to say sorry for all he put me through, so that was nice of him.
But it sucks to get cheated on and i wouldnt want to do that do someone i love
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Post by katrin on Oct 8, 2006 19:29:33 GMT 3
Bia, thnx for the topic=) lol That was the beginning af memorable bodyguard story I wouldn have been able to behave like that if I hadn't been really angry. It wasn't just roumors, that made me take such actions, the point was that I'd almost bumped into my ex strolling with another girl and then giving her a long and passionate good-bye kiss...Don't think I had a paranoia, that was a very telltale view... Was I angry? That's not the right word - I was outraged, just because I think cheating is the indicator of cowardness, or hypocrisy, and I can't stand both. Can I put that behind me? Definitely no... It's almost on the physical level - I keep on thinking that he was acting just the same with the other girl...And sometimes I feel sorry for her, and sometimes even gratitude. She helped me to see what a bastard the guy is... At the same time, I distingwish between let's call it "deliberate cheating" and the "drunk" one. The last can be a mistake, and if it's not repeated at every party, it can be forgiven... As for love - it depends. I think I haven't experienced the one that coud conquer the "deliberate cheating", but knowing my own character I can't guarantee that I will never change my mind. |
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Post by bia2209 on Oct 8, 2006 20:06:28 GMT 3
I have never cheated and to my knowledge have never been cheated on. I am of the belief that you can never tell how you will react to any given situation until you are faced with it.You can say how you would LIKE to react or how you HOPE you would react but you never really know.
I can't say that i would never cheat but I can say that so far I have never been tempted to. And I have seen what it does to people and I would never want to inflct that on anyone else.
Could I forgive someone for cheating on me? I don't know. It would depend on the person, on the circumstances and on how i felt about them. Like Katrin said I think there is a difference between cheating deliberately and making a drunken mistake.
I don't know how forgiving I would be but I would hope that i would give the person a chance to at least explain themselves. And then I would kick his ass..heheh
As for love conquering all. Under certain circumstances and with a certain kind of love, I suppose it could. In general though, as important as love is, as much as it can help overcome a lot, I don't think it can conquor everything.
There are times when unfortunately, love is just not enough.
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But the thing that scares me most is the fact that soon (hopefully) when I have a baby there will be a sustantial amount of years in my life when I will have to make choices for someone else and their whole lives will depend on my choices.... wow.....
