The Intimate Confessions of TGFR Members

[iman]

oh i think i am a bit late on the eye theory so can i answer both topics??

you are all saying you cant tell a persons pure intentions 'so to speak' by looking in their eyes, but what about the obvious?? you can tell if a person is truly happy when you look into their eyes, or by looking for that sparkle when they are excited or the sadness when they are sad even though they maybe smiling???
tired, drunk , high on dope, and love sick eyes, or when a person is completely lost, or embarrassed............i think one can tel a lot by looking into a persons eyes whether a stranger or a loved one....do u agree???

the most romantic thng anyone has done for me ......., well when i was in my first year of uni i was really depressed about my family and had some really bad personal issues to deal with.
one nght i was with my biyfriend who i had just started seeing, i was telling him about some of my problems.....and i burst into tears.....and let me tell you, i am usually a really strong person and hide my emotions really well but you know sometime ur problems are like a fizzy can thats been shaked. the pressure just keeps building up and up and then once u open the can it just all pours out....this is what happens when you bottle up your problems too....... are u still with me???

anyway after a very emotional night i told my boyfriend i wanted to be left alone to deal with my problems.
But instead of running a mile the next day he sneaked into my room while i wasnt there and decorated it with loads of balloons and flowers and wrote me a poem!!!!
(i apoligise for anyone being sick) anyway it cheered me up so much that day and for the next few days i had ballons and flowers in my room to remind me that there was at least one person in the world who cared and maybe loved me!!!

it made me feel special and i think that is what romance should do!!!

[raghda]

What A great Topic Guys It touched my heart
I wish I can write anything in it
Now I cant recall but for sure I have lot of confessions

[Annie]

OK, I am gonna tell you a romantic story. Back in 1998 I was a student in Malta and I was a very active AIESEC member. I was going out with someone at the time for almost three years then but our relationship has come to a dead end for a number of reasons, which is a very long story and I was very eager to get out of it (which I did a few days after this story hapenned ). My friends and I were on the organising committee of Aiesec's Mediterranean Management Seminar. We had hundreds of people from all over Europe coming to us for the seminar and in the evenings we organised all sorts of parties, gatherings, etc. for them.

Two days before the seminar started we had organised an orientation programme and people who wanted to learn about Malta and it's major attractions could come to the seminar earlier and have some fun on treasure hunts and trips around the islands.

So my friend and I were at the airport picking up another bunch of people from various destinations when a Croatian delegation arrived. The minutes they came up to us and said they were the people we were waiting for - I felt someone staring intensely at me, I looked up from my sheets and saw a pair of bright green eyes and that instant I knew I was in serious trouble. We were a great bunch of people during all the orientation programme and the seminar, had amazing fun and throughout all this time those green eyes of an incredibly hot Croatian were following me everywhere I went. His best friend was a girl whom we made friends with instantly, he was a great great guy too and we spent tons of time together.

The night before they left home after the seminar we had organised a huge fairwell party for them, which was an absolute ball. Me and green eyes danced a lot and chatted a lot and every time we touched electricity ran through I seriously considered going wild that night but my very moralistic friend whom we shared a room with dragged me with her and said I shouldn't be doing anything stupid because I have a boyfriend (till today I haven't forgiven her for it LMAO ;D )

The morning after I went up to his room to tell him bye..he was packed and ready to go...I think everyone at the seminar knew how we felt about each other and at that point everyone somehow disappeared and we were alone. I started saying silly things like... it was great meeting you and have a safe trip back and write when you get a chance and he just stood there staring at me with those green eyes and then suddenly leaned in and kissed me. I think we kissed for at least 5 minutes LOL and after we stopped I started crying like a baby...there was so much we wanted to say to each other but there was no time because he had a plane to catch

Two weeks later I received a 5 page long letter written in beautiful handwriting telling me everything he had felt for about two weeks...telling me how he knew we couldn't do anything because we were both seeing other people but how all he could think of for two weeks was running off somewhere with me and how I made his heart skip a beat every time he saw me... it was the most romantic letter I had ever received in my life...I still have it tucked away in my secret place

We never spoke or wrote again... but this is one story I will remember for as long as I live

[raghda]

Here is a confession... It's kinda about love from first sight

when I was 16
I was in alexandria.. i was sitting with punch of frnds till a guy came He was that kind i can fall for.. Tall black hair brown Eyes and hillarious... I dunno wat happened but we talked really alot... I even discovered that he was my neighbour when we were kids.. Bla Bla

anyways I dunno wat happened but at the end of the day we were boyfrnd and gurl frnd
I thought he was the one .... we went out alot and it was gr8 he even introduced me to his familly but then I went baq to cairo ... and I was like wat is zat !! I cant be loving that guy
we dont think like eachother and I still have my futur and I cant have such serious relation while I'm zat young!

Actually thre was another guy ( in another confession) that i felt for and I couldnt be his GF coz of my Bf I was tottally confused I didnt call my boyfrnd.... I was bad to him
Till his birthday I dunno wat happened .... I called him all I said was...

"Happy BirthDay I dont think we should be together anymore Mama wont Agree and I really dont want her to get angry!!"
Like wat excuse is zat and on his birthday I really hated me after ....

The guy was Like :x ... he didnt say a word so I told him anyways good luck I wish u can find a better Gurl... all wat he managed to say was "after wat happened now... I think I will really take time to have another one"

we didnt call since I remember him calling me after to check my reasults but I didnt call back .. I felt guilty.... But I met him this year ;D he has another Gf and he is fine

[raghda]

By the way guys ur confessions are Great I really like the way write them

[bia2209]

This is just a reply to Iman and for everyone's general info. The introduction of a new topic doesn't mean the old ones are closed. Feel free to confess on any of the topics that have been suggested. ;D

And the new topic is...."Hot or Cold"

Basically the idea here is to find out what do you do when confronted with someone that you are attracted to or want to be with but that person is blowing hot and cold.

One second they are totally with you and the next minute it's like they can't stand the sight of you. How do you handle it?

Or maybe you're the one who is blowing hot and cold. Have you ever been so confused about how you feel that you send out mixed signals?

Confess all in the Temple of TGFR

[raghda]

Biaa U r talking about me
Yea Zats absolutly me...
When I know a guy he is absolutly hot and the only one for me.. after a week or even less .. I'm like Wat is zat!! how I even liked the Guy oooh am falling for another when I was younger I thought that every fling or crush is really love that made me getting into probs
Like that I confessed be4

I once knew a guy I was like 2day I love him 2morro I'm cold and so on
i always sent confused msgs sometimes i'm crazy about him sometimes I'm not

But I guess its all because we all want aperfect guy may be he had good things i love nad things I dont
anyways i finally left him

Now I'm trying to control myself like i'll never tell myself that i love a boy till i pass at least knowing him and i dont mean dating Lol

[iman]

thanks bia and rahda......i thought no body had replied for ages after my last confessions and that i might have killed the thread.....

i have a query about hot and cold people!!!

there is an extremly fit guy at work!!! he is the 'hottie' at work that all the girls drool over.

when i ever i go out with my friends and he is there he always comes over and chats to me and compliments me on how i look or something similar. i have played doubles tennis with him a few times and he is always really kind, sweet and encouraging...patting me on the back whenver i manage to do something good.

but then when he is at work he never ever says a world to me or he says VERY little.....Why is this about???

i thought maybe it was a confidence thing and that he is shy?? i thought that when he is out he has a few drinks and thus plucks up the courage to say hello and chat......but he wont even chat to me on MSN?

this is definetly a hot or cold scenario...right??? what do i do and how does one cope with this fustration???

[bia2209]

Dealing with mixed signals whether you're getting them or sending them is never easy. In a lot of situations there is a sort of paranoia that sets in and you spend all your time analyzing and looking into the tiniest details. And sometimes that's what casues all the trouble.

There is a girl that writes a column for my school newspaper on her romantic life and she talked about how she spent ages agonziing becasue some australian guy she liked had said "take care gorgeous".

She was convinced he was telling her to take care becasue he had no intention of ever seeing her again. Of course it was a total over reaction and he really only meant take care.

In my experience the only way to deal with someone sending mixed signals is to detach yourself a bit. It's never easy but you can't let yourself live or die by someone else's actions.

If someone doesn't know what they want then they are not likely to be able to give you what you need.

[katrin]

Wow, such a good topic for confession! ;D I've got one pretty good story about mixed signals and how they sometimes help and make your life easier=)))
This story took place when I entered the uni, two years ago. Just imagine, the group of 15 people, 13 of which are girls... And there was (well, still is=)) one pretty guy...
It was 2 weeks of making eyes, smiling at each other and stuff...After 2 weeks I get bored, and started to answer his looks with an indifferent look, or sometimes even grimace...
I think I'll never forget that frank talk during the lecture on Russian stylistics, which started form "Why did u start ignoring me?".
The poin was, that at the moment he had a girlfriend, and didn't want to part with her, I was really uderstanding, and we became just friends, may be even less than that .
The happy end is that when I got to know the guy better, I was very happy about not having any close relationships with him, cos he's an absolute antipode to what I think a man should be, though, to be hones, a very god-looking antipode=))) ;D ;D ;D

By the way, Bia, Sabz and all the Mulan ladies - the fic is awesome=))))

[Chiro]

'Take care goregous' --> that made me laugh sooo much... I'm Australian and live in sydney and that is sooo the typical thing for a guy to say... hehe, it's sweet, and I guess if you had some feelings for the guy you WANT to interpret things sometimes different to what you know or is obvious he is saying...

Like at the moment, there is this Tutor I like at university. His name is Joe. He isn't my tutor so no-one mention ethical conduct lol he just is a tutor. Point is, one night I built up the courage to e-mail him with a short sweet message telling him something little about me that would intrigue him to email back, and telling him I see him, he sees me, but we don't know each other. From that email on, we would send each other like 10 emails a day, talking about everything in our lives, and I found out so much about him that I shared in common. One day, he organised to bring me some references that he found in his lecturer's office, for a paper I was working on, and that way he could see who I was, we could talk etc etc. We went for coffee, the next day we had lunch, we would talk endlessly, he would smile I would melt you know the deal...

And this is where the story ties in with a few of the previous confessions. First I had dillemma with 'white lies'... not with him, but with my girlfriends (female friends)... you see EVERYONE likes Joe, everyone thinks he is handsome, nice, funny, smart, a good catch... so when I would meet up with my girlfriends and have lunch or something at uni, a few times the whole conversation was centred around Joe. (HE was the tutor of some of my friends). And they would ask me (since i sat there quitely smiling ) have u seen him? oh he is so cute! you must have seen him! I would answer "ummm i think so, i dont know, i hear alot about him though! Tell me what is he like" and try to change the subject... are white lies like that really bad? my girlfriends are very confident, sassy, beautiful girls, not that I'm not... but you know how it gets with girls! some will stop at nothing! so i prefer to keep things to myself! are others the same?

And the other part of the story is 'hot and cold'... initially when we first started to get to know each other, I found that he was really opening up, very interested, intrigued even. But now thats its been a couple of months since then, I don't feel that anymore. We still see other, we email occasionally, but it isn't going anywhere more than friends. And I'm kind of bumbed out about it... like i wasn't quite sure what I was expecting, but whatever it was it isn't how he's acting... so sometimes I think, 'maybe I did interpret his behaviour wrongly'...

That's just my little story

Btw, Annie, I'm also part of AIESEC over here in Sydney... what a coincidence!

[katrin]

Guys u seem to loose interest in this thread - no new confesions whatsoever.....

[indiangal]

lol.,..was part of AIESEC in CHANDIGARH ,INDIA...

neways...my story is least interesting but i gotta get it off my chest..

during first year of my engineering i really liked this guy..he is damn shy n me very outspoken...but..alas....i was very conscious of tonnes of facts .i was damn huge..a fat arse is wat people said.....

i continued to like him...n lost oddles of weight..his best friend became my best friend.... so that gave me a pathway to talk to my crush more frequently.....

then god bless my soul...i casually started datin sum odr guy .... but i guess sumwhr i deep inside i continued to like the first one.......

the second went outta the side as he moved to a separate country...
our common best friend told me that the first one had kinda started reciprocatin my feelings....
<i have this weird notion in my head - a big emphatic NO to distance relationships...>

before i cud decide to give it a shot , we had completed four years of engineering he had to move away......
thats how things r now.....unfulfilled ...
that corridor of uncertainty - wat if i had dated him..??

[bia2209]

OK people, ;D ;D

Lets shake this thing up a bit!!

Pulling skeletons out of the closet!!

Has anything you've done ever come back to haunt you??

Did you ever feel like you had attained closure on a situation, a relationship, a chapter in your life, only to find it blowing up in your face??

The conqsequences can range from mundane (forgetting to call the plumber and finding the kitchen flooded when you come home) to major (losing the person you love)

Happy confessing!! ;D

And introducing the new even more interactive feature of the confessions thread!!

if there is a topic that you would like to confess on or see others confess on, send me a pm with your idea and it will be taken into consideration for the thread. ;D ;D ;D

[indiangal]

ill post the inaugural mesg....
word of caution : i have the most screwed up love life on this earth....

this guy i really really liked , he confessed that he loved me...
n im infested wth this crazy emotion that feelings shudnt be made open ......so i played casual.....told him datin is just fine n word COMMITMENT word was outta d dictionary....

n nw the roles r reversed...i feel so totally committed and he is the one followin my philosophy.....