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Post by reese on Oct 8, 2006 20:59:34 GMT 3
No I haven´t cheated But yes, I have been cheated on  5 years ago when I was 17 my bf at this time cheated on me. Well there was a girl who was after him. And one day he told me that he cheated on me. I was sooo hurt and felt betrayed. I quit the relationship. He then was with the other girl but 2 or 3 weeks later he came to me and asked for another chance  I laughed at him and told him to f*** off ;D ;D I felt triumphant  Well at this time I hadn´t the feeling that I could forgive him. All my trust in him was destroyed so for me there was no sense to continue the realtionship. Thanks to my friends I got over it  Sure I am more sceptical to other guys but you can´t compare one to another. At this time I couldn´t forgive but I don´t know if I can´t forgive in general. It depends on the person and the relationship. I mean 5 years ago it was teenager - relationship it´s easier to quit than a marriage for example. I can´t tell what I would do in future if I get cheated on again. And even tough I made this experience I can´t say that I will never cheat on somebody.. These aren´t the things you can plan, these are things they just happen.. |
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Post by iman on Oct 8, 2006 23:01:46 GMT 3
hello people
i think i am totally with Bia on this one. As i too have never been cheated on nor have i done the cheating i cant really say what or how i would react. i could never do it myself because i have seen the pain it does to people.......i always tell my BF that if he ever cheated on me i would leave him in an instance and i know he would do the same if the tables were turned!!!
but secretly i love him so much and cant imagine my life without him that i think if he did cheat on me, i would actually forgive although i am never going to admit this to him. i think this would make me weak but maybe i am scared of loosing someone that has been a part of my life!!! i guess it comes to choices again........
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Post by maribrasil on Oct 10, 2006 18:00:08 GMT 3
hello people i think i am totally with Bia on this one. As i too have never been cheated on nor have i done the cheating i cant really say what or how i would react. i could never do it myself because i have seen the pain it does to people....... I'm in the same situation |
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Post by Tish on Oct 11, 2006 15:01:36 GMT 3
I think sometimes there are varying degrees of cheating the physical kind and the emotional kind, I have been with my partner for nearly 15 years, and the way I see it that is a long relationship in these everchanging times, do I find myself attracted to other people - yes (look what kind of forum I am addicted to , daydreaming, lusting etc ) would i ever do anything about it a resounding [glow=red,2,300]NO[/glow] We have both committed and have chosen on a daily basis to be together, is it hard? - definitely it is fullfilling? definitely would I forgive him if he cheated on me? Absolutely NOT, He knows if I found out about any kind of indescretion that I would leave in an instant and I wouldn't stick around to hear any kind of lame excuse. I used to think that thiskind of thinking came with age but I don't anymore as I think it is personilies. I believe wholeheartedly in my relationship and would do anything to prevent it from happening in the first case. OK **getting off soap box Now** Find a guy that sees you as his princess and would do anything for you even if you don't need it.. ;D True Love conquers All |
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Post by varia on Oct 12, 2006 2:42:09 GMT 3
Ohhh... cheating, ha? Well, I have to admit that I've been a bad girl... ;D ;D ;D I've cheated, more then once...  Can you forgive and forget?! NO! No way... I never asked for forgivenes cause if I cheat there is something wrong in the relationship... But then again I never really confessed that I was unfaithful... Any way I've never done anything that I regreted latter... I do think some of the guys I cheated on would have forgiven me but NO WAY I could stay with someone who I have the need to cheat on... I was cheated on once as far as I know... I learned much from that experience... I was young and naive and I caught my then bf with another girl... He never regreted it and I would have never forgiven him any way... |
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Post by bia2209 on Oct 14, 2006 21:06:00 GMT 3
All right, people ;D It's time for the X factor or should i say "Ex" Is it possible, really possible, to stay friends with an ex? Can you go from the closeness of an intimate relationship to something totally platonic?? And if you can, how?? And if not, why not? Happy Confessing!! |
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Post by indiangal on Oct 14, 2006 21:16:25 GMT 3
i need to begin postin on this thread..
hell no...
tis tonnes difficult than solvin A maths problem...
tis just hard to draw d line...whn hes wth sum odr gal , u feel these barrage of emotions... n memories cum flooding back.......
havin been thru it , id say i wud neva make an effort to stay in touch , if we bumped into each odr then tis a diff story..
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Post by davis on Oct 17, 2006 13:19:50 GMT 3
All right, people ;D It's time for the X factor or should i say "Ex" Is it possible, really possible, to stay friends with an ex? Can you go from the closeness of an intimate relationship to something totally platonic?? And if you can, how?? And if not, why not? Happy Confessing!! My absolutely best, closest male friend in the whole world is also an Ex of mine, so to a certain degree staying friends works. To me, the difference lies in the closeness of the intimate relationship - and who broke up with whom. Said best friend and I were BF/GF for about three months only and I ended the relationship because I discovered I liked him as a friend but not as anything else... Lucky for me, he got over it and I even was his "Man of Honor" when he got married two years ago . On the other hand I have no contact whatsoever to a man that - besides my husband - was what I called the "love of my life". He broke up with me because he said that he liked me but didn't love me and contacting him after that would've been far too painful, even though he offered the usual "let's stay friends". I'm not sure even now if I could meet him without any problems - 9 years later and being a married woman...  So, just like most of the time when dealing with emotions, I wouldn't have a clear answer either way P.S.: What a shame (or thank goodness?) that I missed the cheating topic - I would've had sooo much to say to that... ;D |
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Post by bia2209 on Oct 17, 2006 13:43:29 GMT 3
P.S.: What a shame (or thank goodness?) that I missed the cheating topic - I would've had sooo much to say to that... ;D No topic is ever closed...hehe Confess away ;D ;D |
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Post by davis on Oct 17, 2006 15:00:31 GMT 3
P.S.: What a shame (or thank goodness?) that I missed the cheating topic - I would've had sooo much to say to that... ;D No topic is ever closed...hehe Confess away ;D ;D You wish... ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D |
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Post by bia2209 on Oct 17, 2006 15:47:49 GMT 3
No topic is ever closed...hehe Confess away ;D ;D You wish... ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D Oh well. It was worth a shot...hehehe |
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Post by annie on Oct 18, 2006 12:57:21 GMT 3
free time is so hard to get...anyway, i have time now so why don't i share...
RE: EX factor topic...first boyfriend and i broke up a coulple of years ago.. He was 6 years older than me but we were more or less on the same wavelength...that is to say he acts/think like my age. anyway, he was a stud so basically he had chicks all over him when he goes out with his friends. and you know what happens when a bucnh of guys are out by themselves...everyone's single and available...well, that was fine with me...i know it's normal and besides it was nothing serious....why we broke up is because, i felt like it wasn't working anymore and i felt like i don't even have a boyfriend. he was too consumed with his friends and he wasn't around much everytime he comes home from the states...(he is a crew in a luxury cruise ship based in the states) so i broke it off...
we were friends for a while talking online and he was still calling me even when he was in the states already. then when he came home again, it was completely different from what we were like as friends. meaning he doesn't even text or anything. so i thought, "well, if he doesn't wanna be friends anymore i ain't forcing him" ...then last year he was "coming around again. but well....i wasn't gonna do the first move...you know what i mean?
so then , i don't think it's really really possible to stay friends with your ex...although, i don't know why.
anyway, i have a new boyfriend now.....He's no Marat..but he's great...
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Post by Happiness on Oct 19, 2006 0:39:51 GMT 3
All right, people ;D It's time for the X factor or should i say "Ex" Is it possible, really possible, to stay friends with an ex? Can you go from the closeness of an intimate relationship to something totally platonic?? And if you can, how?? And if not, why not? Happy Confessing!! Hi Bia That's a hard question!!! I'm trying to find the answer to it ... right now on my life  But I think that after so long ... me and my ex can become friends only ... Hopefully We have been through good times and really tough ones ... but somehow things weren't working  But since we respect each other and wish the best for the other I think that friendship is possible  Take Care  Happiness |
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Post by fancy on Oct 21, 2006 15:04:07 GMT 3
well about the cheating topic , i dun think i can do such a thing i can never cheat on my partner , and in such cases i go for honesty and truth why would people cheat on one another from the very begining like for example if any of the couple the lady or the guy fell for someone else then he/she should be honest and tell his/her about the his/her feelings , this would be much better and less hurting than when his/her partener discovers the cheating matter
and about the x factor well my ex was a very very good friend of mine nearly my best friend , a lot of sharing , advices , good moments and once we found that each of us has fell for the other but after sometime i felt like he has changed a bit and for me i cant wait for someone to tell me go away so i broke up with him while am still deeply in love with him
and now we are good friends again , sure not like before but it somehow works , i dont actually knw if i decided to be a friend with him again because i m still in love with him and i want him to be near me or because this is the way it should be after all these years of friendship and then kind feelings , but what i m pretty sure of is that i really miss the old moments between us,
and here is a very little peice of advice let good very good friends away from the feelings issue because if something goes wrong u ll regret ever accepting to get involved in such relation
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Post by bia2209 on Oct 25, 2006 1:41:32 GMT 3
;D ;D New topic peoples, inspired by the fic itself. Secret admirers. Have you ever had one? Would you ever be one? Are more you more vulnerable on paper than face to face? Happy Confessing. |
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I laughed at him and told him to f*** off ;D ;D I felt triumphant 
Sure I am more sceptical to other guys but you can´t compare one to another. At this time I couldn´t forgive but I don´t know if I can´t forgive in general. It depends on the person and the relationship. I mean 5 years ago it was teenager - relationship it´s easier to quit than a marriage for example. 
Dreams unwind but still it's a state of mind,..I know - Dreams unwind but still it's hard to find - Stevie Nicks...“Marat Safin is a self-tortured genius. He's off the wall with tremendous physical talent. “John Mc Enroe
