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Post by mackiemad on Jan 5, 2007 6:58:22 GMT 3
fancy- my experiences are polar opposite to yours!
i went to an anglican boarding school for high school (although i have been confirmed and raised catholic) and with 90 girls all living in one house together and four other houses with the same amount of girls - yep there was bullying, rank pulling etc.
in the beginning i think i could have been called a bully - though i was sticking up for a friend that didn't have the confidence to defend herself. in classes where i wasn't in it she would get things thrown at her, ppl wouldn't sit next to her and they would pass her horrible notes. so i did the same to the ringleader, and (man i can be a bi***!) whenever we would walk past each other i would mutter things under my breath. after kaitlyn moved schools the bullier and i sorted our differences and actually became very good friends and i learnt that she did what she did because she had no confidence in herself and she needed to make someone less important than her to feel safe and whatnot.
but in my last two years i had some real troubles. my best friend from home had died in a car accident and then the driver, another good friend, had too much survivors guilt and it killed him. anyway i was in a horrible place and this girl spread all these horrible rumours about me. i didn't aknowledge her or them, becasue they were so obviously made up (like that i was making up that i had a brother and all sorts of wack stuff- i mean what the??!!). but i ended up asking to be put into another boarding house cos she would leave awful nots in my room and stuff and i was sick of it. and some of my friends didn't stand up for me. so my faith in humainy was kinda shot.
went to uni and met such a wonderful honest group of people where they celebrate differences and accept anyone. going to uni and meeting those people, well i feel blessed every day. boarding school was great for indipendence but i am never living with that many girls again!
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Post by hp on Feb 1, 2007 11:47:02 GMT 3
fancy- my experiences are polar opposite to yours! i went to an anglican boarding school for high school (although i have been confirmed and raised catholic) and with 90 girls all living in one house together and four other houses with the same amount of girls - yep there was bullying, rank pulling etc. in the beginning i think i could have been called a bully - though i was sticking up for a friend that didn't have the confidence to defend herself. in classes where i wasn't in it she would get things thrown at her, ppl wouldn't sit next to her and they would pass her horrible notes. so i did the same to the ringleader, and (man i can be a bi***!) whenever we would walk past each other i would mutter things under my breath. after kaitlyn moved schools the bullier and i sorted our differences and actually became very good friends and i learnt that she did what she did because she had no confidence in herself and she needed to make someone less important than her to feel safe and whatnot. but in my last two years i had some real troubles. my best friend from home had died in a car accident and then the driver, another good friend, had too much survivors guilt and it killed him. anyway i was in a horrible place and this girl spread all these horrible rumours about me. i didn't aknowledge her or them, becasue they were so obviously made up (like that i was making up that i had a brother and all sorts of wack stuff- i mean what the??!!). but i ended up asking to be put into another boarding house cos she would leave awful nots in my room and stuff and i was sick of it. and some of my friends didn't stand up for me. so my faith in humainy was kinda shot. went to uni and met such a wonderful honest group of people where they celebrate differences and accept anyone. going to uni and meeting those people, well i feel blessed every day. boarding school was great for indipendence but i am never living with that many girls again! well thats what you get in an all girls school, all girl schools bit** bit** bit** sometimes, i've seen some nasty things in my school but i remain neutral or give both parties (if they are fighting) advice. We all bully at some stage. |
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Post by Annie on Feb 1, 2007 12:00:00 GMT 3
Well this thread has been totally dead for ages so once fan fic is rolling fast I suggest another topic... based on our Sonja storyline... two-timing  Have you ever seen two people at the same time? Have you managed to balance two relationships or has it blown up in your face??? Confess all in the Mulan Temple ;D ;D ;D |
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Post by annie on Feb 1, 2007 22:54:24 GMT 3
Nope, i'm a good girl...and i adhere to the golden rule "Do unto others what you want others do unto you" so i don't cheat, or two-time coz i don't want it being done to me...and so far in any of my relationships, it hasn't.... Although, if you count having a boyfriend and being totally in love with Marat Safin something like that....Well, then, I'm guilty!! LMAO
of course, seeing two people when you're not committed to either of them, is different....a girl can see different guys as long as she is not in a "relationship" with any of them yet...that's not considered two-timing but "trying them out before picking the best" ...
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Post by Mrs. Fabregas on Feb 2, 2007 12:32:28 GMT 3
Well, i have to confess.....  I don't really know if it's cheating, but...... There's a guy, from my work, and we really, really like eachother very much, but it's not a 'real' relationship (if you know what I mean  ) and last weekend, when I went to a club with my froends, i ran into my ex, which I haven't seen for almost 6 months.... we started talking and dancing and it was really nice, comortable.... My friends were warning me, don't do it, you know what's gonna happen if you continue this, and I was like, nooooo, everything is under control (i thought so, but sometimes you just can't think clearly, after a couple (a lot ) drinks and the clubbing enviornment!)..... Well, we ended up in my appartment  , and in the morning I was a little confused that my ex was still there, he was even making me breakfast . Then, the guy from my work called me to ask if I had a nice saturday eve and if I wanted to go for a walk and talk on the beach..... So I kicked out my ex, told him I would call him (some time, maybe  ) and he just left when the other arrived! When I opened the door to let him in, he kissed me like he never, ever did, I was thinking WTF is happening! In the car, when we went to the beach, i was a little quiet, he asked me what is wrong, and i told him that I had a hangover...... we had a really nice long walk and then we stopped to relax on the beach, we started to relax, talk and kiss and .... ... He really said such sweet and loving things to me, told me he's a little confused about the things he's feeling for me, and at that point, i just couldn't keep the things that happened the night before to myself..... So I told him what happend, and he was really shocked, mad, sad and hurt, but we talked about it for more than an hour, and at the end he wasn't really mad anymore, and told me that he still wanted to start a relation with me, but that the trust was a little gone, so we have to build that again! And right now, we're calling, talking, emailing like crazy, but it's not the same as before. And i realize now more than ever before that he really is the one that gives me butterflies and i think we'll work everything out, eventually So, this was my confession! |
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Post by Happiness on Feb 2, 2007 18:39:50 GMT 3
Well this thread has been totally dead for ages so once fan fic is rolling fast I suggest another topic... based on our Sonja storyline... two-timing Have you ever seen two people at the same time? Have you managed to balance two relationships or has it blown up in your face??? Confess all in the Mulan Temple ;D ;D ;D Hi everyone  Answering your question Annie: No I haven't. And somehow I doubt I would in the future!!! (After all dealing with one men is a lot of troubles ... I don't think I could handle too!!! LOL) Seriously I think that when you have a good relationship you don't need anyone else! Above all trust is the main key!!! If you trust in your partner and he/she trusts in you I don't think that situations like those will happen. Generally that only happens when one of the parts involved is unhappy with the relashionship and can't reach it's partner ... Talking about what is going on and how the relashionship has changed and how what he/she wants the relashionship to be ... I think that's the solution for the problem instead of starting an affair, even if it isn't that simple sometimes! But in other cases it maybe not be that easy ... I think it all depends on the situation itself. Take Care  Happiness  |
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Post by Happiness on Feb 2, 2007 18:51:11 GMT 3
Well, i have to confess..... I don't really know if it's cheating, but...... There's a guy, from my work, and we really, really like eachother very much, but it's not a 'real' relationship (if you know what I mean ) and last weekend, when I went to a club with my froends, i ran into my ex, which I haven't seen for almost 6 months.... we started talking and dancing and it was really nice, comortable.... My friends were warning me, don't do it, you know what's gonna happen if you continue this, and I was like, nooooo, everything is under control (i thought so, but sometimes you just can't think clearly, after a couple (a lot ) drinks and the clubbing enviornment!)..... Well, we ended up in my appartment , and in the morning I was a little confused that my ex was still there, he was even making me breakfast . Then, the guy from my work called me to ask if I had a nice saturday eve and if I wanted to go for a walk and talk on the beach..... So I kicked out my ex, told him I would call him (some time, maybe ) and he just left when the other arrived! When I opened the door to let him in, he kissed me like he never, ever did, I was thinking WTF is happening! In the car, when we went to the beach, i was a little quiet, he asked me what is wrong, and i told him that I had a hangover...... we had a really nice long walk and then we stopped to relax on the beach, we started to relax, talk and kiss and .... ... He really said such sweet and loving things to me, told me he's a little confused about the things he's feeling for me, and at that point, i just couldn't keep the things that happened the night before to myself..... So I told him what happend, and he was really shocked, mad, sad and hurt, but we talked about it for more than an hour, and at the end he wasn't really mad anymore, and told me that he still wanted to start a relation with me, but that the trust was a little gone, so we have to build that again! And right now, we're calling, talking, emailing like crazy, but it's not the same as before. And i realize now more than ever before that he really is the one that gives me butterflies and i think we'll work everything out, eventually So, this was my confession! Hi Frensje I can understand that your collegue may felt shocked, mad, sad and hurt. But I don't think he can judge or even demand anything from you, after all at that time you were only friends! Besides you were totally honest and oppened your heart to him and if that's not bulding trust then I don't know what it is! It's natural that when you found your ex you may felt something there, after all you didn't started dating him if you haven't any feelings for him, right? But that doesn't mean you still feel for him the same way you did back then. Don't feel guilty or sorrow for it sweetie, it's just one of those things that sometimes happens!!! I'm sure you'll work out thigs for the better!!! Take Care Happiness |
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Post by Mrs. Fabregas on Feb 3, 2007 0:03:49 GMT 3
Hi Happiness, than you for your sweet words, really made me feel a bit better But we weren't only friends, was a little more than that..... not a 'real' relationship, but a little teasing and boyfriend-girlfriend thingy, so i completely understood why he was upset! But, that's in the past now, we agreed not to talk to much about it anymore and to start a new 'us', that's what he said today to me, and today also, although we were at work, he really let everyone at work (our other colleague's) know that we are a couple!!!! So now i'm really happy, and butterflies are flying in my tummy a lot ;D |
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Post by Happiness on Feb 3, 2007 14:15:28 GMT 3
Hi Happiness, than you for your sweet words, really made me feel a bit better But we weren't only friends, was a little more than that..... not a 'real' relationship, but a little teasing and boyfriend-girlfriend thingy, so i completely understood why he was upset! But, that's in the past now, we agreed not to talk to much about it anymore and to start a new 'us', that's what he said today to me, and today also, although we were at work, he really let everyone at work (our other colleague's) know that we are a couple!!!! So now i'm really happy, and butterflies are flying in my tummy a lot ;D Hi Frensje Glad that I could help I know what you mean ... That's why I said simply friends ... Not in the sense of being merely friends, but more in the sense of not yet a couple. Great that you both finally started a relashionship!!! I wish you both all the best!!! ;D ;D And you know if you ever need anything sweetie you can always send a PM Take Care Happiness |
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Post by Giselle on Feb 3, 2007 23:43:51 GMT 3
oK WELL! my life is not es axciting as other may be...but here it goes. this story took years in the making. I had a friend in my early teens, we were like strawberries and cream, wherever she was I was. She was really a girl who had a lot of health problems and I was always with her, she was my very very best friend and I was always very scared that she was going to die, so I always made her laugh I tough that if I did that some endorphis would make her health better (some story I read somehwere said that) . She had a passion for everything in school, and she was always in first place, me on the other hand was always a c student. She would help me and encourage me. For example, she taugh me how to become a better reader and share the passion for english literature with me. You see, she loved english and everybit of info she got in her hads she would translate it, so I sort of got into that and we became the best students when it came to english in our school. We had a group of friends, and somehow everybody knew that even in a group nobody could come between us. later on when I was 13 she was 14, in the group, suddenly she started to change. I dunno if it was because I was inmature or that she wanted to grow up and do other stuff. Anyways, we loved the Back street boys at that time, they were big in Colombia. So at one point she took all the posters down and said that loving them was inmmature and that she was into other stuff. We both were part of the same group in school and people started talking that we were not as good friends anymore. She also started saying nasty things about me, so much I was like a pariah to the whole class. I was really pissed. The thing about our society in the north part of colombia at least. Is that everything america is the best, and money talks of course. I was going to a school that was medium-high class although I could afford to go to amore expensive one, this one had a better education, not because its expensive it means that its better right? sometimes people would say that I didn't have money just because I didn't buy or use things to show off, I never liked that, in my family we like good stuff but it doesn't mean that we can shove it to people faces. Plus my father is the one with the money not me. In the other hand my mom left to US, my parents split and my friend also split, I had no group of friends and I really felt that it was unfair what the girls at school were doing, they knew better, they know me, why would they believe such rumors. In catholic school as most of u know, I learn to read the bible back and forth, somehwere in those teachings, said that God knows ur worst weakness and when its time that u wanna teake revenge, he will take care of that for you. i BELEIVE THAT. Even though I was pissed and when I'm pissed I can do anything, I decided let God work his magic. Things started to unfold and my old group of friends realize that what this girl was saying was wrong, that they couldn't believe they fell for it, they came back to ask for forgiveness. 2nd thing was that we both were singers at school and we had this festival were people sing only in english, so he had to pick one out of every class, when the auditions came, they picked me instead of her, she was furious cause she said she was a better english speaker. third thing was that a girl from class saw me coming out of my house, (I lived in a very nice place and my parents had a building with my name on it, cause over there u have to name the building) well people now wanted to talk to me because they thought I had money; wrong my father has not me...the last thing that I think piss her of the most, my mom gave me a chance to visit her on x-mas time, I was comming to US before my friend ever did, and this was her all life dream, not only that, things that destiny have for us, The backstreet boys were coming to florida to open their tour and my dad payed for the tickets as a present. I was finally going to see my teen Idols...the ones that she loved, and still loved but denied because it was uncool. I in the other hand even if its uncool, if I like it period. The x-mas before classes were over and she knew I was coming here, was her 15th b-day a big deal in society over there. she sent me a card to go to her party, my now friends could not believe she dared. My father who know the whole story told her I was not going, cause I was in US for vacations. He told me " see Giselle, everything comes back, I'm sure u would have brough her a present but since she acted that way she doesn't deserve you". I went to the concert and I was trilled I could not believe my eyes, I even saw nick carter going inside the stadium (her favorite one). I went back, showed my pics to my friends, she was soo jelous! a year after I left, after all she never said she was sorry for what she did. I had peace of mind cause I didn't do anyhting wrong, I never hated her, I wished her the health she didn't have. I left Colombia because it was too dangerous for all of us over there. My friends till this day talk to me and send me pics, they are graduating uni, and many of them had become sucesful. Last week on the graduation of one of them, my ex-friend asked for my e-mail address, she contacted me on msn. She told me that she was sorry for all she did. That it was an immature thing what she did, and through it all I was her best friend. She told me it was stupid and childish, and that she wanted my e-mail to make amends. Shes going to become a doctor soon. I'm happy she came to her senses, I'm a great friend  ha ha ha, at least I like to think so. It took five years to get in touch  . And I'm happy that she did. I'm going to give her the chance she never gave me. Sorry for the long story. |
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Post by CADjReine on Feb 5, 2007 10:36:06 GMT 3
Ok! here goes I'm jumping in..Does strecthing the truth count as lying or working your way out of an uncomfortable situtation.... I am guilty of both.. When strangers ask questions that are too personal, lying becomes a game....If someone ask for my opinion when the answer will publicly embarass or effect the life of a person I simply streatch the truth..Both are not right! This year I am going to resolve to do something about this..looking at this fault in a new light..Merci!
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Post by Happiness on Feb 6, 2007 2:26:17 GMT 3
oK WELL! my life is not es axciting as other may be...but here it goes. this story took years in the making. I had a friend in my early teens, we were like strawberries and cream, wherever she was I was. She was really a girl who had a lot of health problems and I was always with her, she was my very very best friend and I was always very scared that she was going to die, so I always made her laugh I tough that if I did that some endorphis would make her health better (some story I read somehwere said that) . She had a passion for everything in school, and she was always in first place, me on the other hand was always a c student. She would help me and encourage me. For example, she taugh me how to become a better reader and share the passion for english literature with me. You see, she loved english and everybit of info she got in her hads she would translate it, so I sort of got into that and we became the best students when it came to english in our school. We had a group of friends, and somehow everybody knew that even in a group nobody could come between us. later on when I was 13 she was 14, in the group, suddenly she started to change. I dunno if it was because I was inmature or that she wanted to grow up and do other stuff. Anyways, we loved the Back street boys at that time, they were big in Colombia. So at one point she took all the posters down and said that loving them was inmmature and that she was into other stuff. We both were part of the same group in school and people started talking that we were not as good friends anymore. She also started saying nasty things about me, so much I was like a pariah to the whole class. I was really pissed. The thing about our society in the north part of colombia at least. Is that everything america is the best, and money talks of course. I was going to a school that was medium-high class although I could afford to go to amore expensive one, this one had a better education, not because its expensive it means that its better right? sometimes people would say that I didn't have money just because I didn't buy or use things to show off, I never liked that, in my family we like good stuff but it doesn't mean that we can shove it to people faces. Plus my father is the one with the money not me. In the other hand my mom left to US, my parents split and my friend also split, I had no group of friends and I really felt that it was unfair what the girls at school were doing, they knew better, they know me, why would they believe such rumors. In catholic school as most of u know, I learn to read the bible back and forth, somehwere in those teachings, said that God knows ur worst weakness and when its time that u wanna teake revenge, he will take care of that for you. i BELEIVE THAT. Even though I was pissed and when I'm pissed I can do anything, I decided let God work his magic. Things started to unfold and my old group of friends realize that what this girl was saying was wrong, that they couldn't believe they fell for it, they came back to ask for forgiveness. 2nd thing was that we both were singers at school and we had this festival were people sing only in english, so he had to pick one out of every class, when the auditions came, they picked me instead of her, she was furious cause she said she was a better english speaker. third thing was that a girl from class saw me coming out of my house, (I lived in a very nice place and my parents had a building with my name on it, cause over there u have to name the building) well people now wanted to talk to me because they thought I had money; wrong my father has not me...the last thing that I think piss her of the most, my mom gave me a chance to visit her on x-mas time, I was comming to US before my friend ever did, and this was her all life dream, not only that, things that destiny have for us, The backstreet boys were coming to florida to open their tour and my dad payed for the tickets as a present. I was finally going to see my teen Idols...the ones that she loved, and still loved but denied because it was uncool. I in the other hand even if its uncool, if I like it period. The x-mas before classes were over and she knew I was coming here, was her 15th b-day a big deal in society over there. she sent me a card to go to her party, my now friends could not believe she dared. My father who know the whole story told her I was not going, cause I was in US for vacations. He told me " see Giselle, everything comes back, I'm sure u would have brough her a present but since she acted that way she doesn't deserve you". I went to the concert and I was trilled I could not believe my eyes, I even saw nick carter going inside the stadium (her favorite one). I went back, showed my pics to my friends, she was soo jelous! a year after I left, after all she never said she was sorry for what she did. I had peace of mind cause I didn't do anyhting wrong, I never hated her, I wished her the health she didn't have. I left Colombia because it was too dangerous for all of us over there. My friends till this day talk to me and send me pics, they are graduating uni, and many of them had become sucesful. Last week on the graduation of one of them, my ex-friend asked for my e-mail address, she contacted me on msn. She told me that she was sorry for all she did. That it was an immature thing what she did, and through it all I was her best friend. She told me it was stupid and childish, and that she wanted my e-mail to make amends. Shes going to become a doctor soon. I'm happy she came to her senses, I'm a great friend ha ha ha, at least I like to think so. It took five years to get in touch . And I'm happy that she did. I'm going to give her the chance she never gave me. Sorry for the long story. Hi Giselle Awww ... Sweetie I'm really glad you remained true to yourself and didn't changed with the years just to become popular!!! I think you just teached a lesson to everyone!!! After everything that your collegue did to you you still managed to forgive and somehow forget!!!  YOU REALLY HAVE A GOLDEN HEART!!! ;D Hope everything get's ok between the two of you Take Care Happiness |
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Post by Happiness on Feb 6, 2007 2:31:52 GMT 3
Ok! here goes I'm jumping in..Does strecthing the truth count as lying or working your way out of an uncomfortable situtation.... I am guilty of both.. When strangers ask questions that are too personal, lying becomes a game....If someone ask for my opinion when the answer will publicly embarass or effect the life of a person I simply streatch the truth..Both are not right! This year I am going to resolve to do something about this..looking at this fault in a new light..Merci! Hi Cadjreine What you just said made me start to think about it ... I suppose we all are guilty of somehow in some situations stretch the truth and some other times not telling everything ... Sometimes not to embarass others ... Sometimes to protect ourselves ... And sometimes to try not to hurt others ... Nevertheless I think being honest and true is the best way ... Even when it doesn't loke that way! Because people will find out sooner or later ... And then they won't trust us anymore ... At least not like before ... So, I hope I can from now on always be true with everyone around me!!! Take Care Happiness |
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Post by Dina on Apr 4, 2007 4:44:45 GMT 3
um , hi have you ever had a secret life? i mean smthg that implies your life and about you that nobody knows, which make you loose your real identity to a point you don't even know where you're standing and what you should be doing with your life?
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Post by Sammy on May 11, 2007 14:26:33 GMT 3
Secret life huh? does life on internet boards count? if yes, than yeah, i've had a secret life ! It didn't really affect my life to the point of losing my identity, but it kind of upset me at times. I was member of a football board, a moroccan team fansite for about a year and i was a pretty active member.. But that's not the problem.. the thing is, i was going on as a guy, posting everyday, and having everyone addressing me as if i were a guy.. Why did i do that u gonna tell me.. Well the majority of the members (smthg like 1200) were male.. and knowing what will happen to me being the only girl there, i decided to be a guy If i went on as a girl, the first reaction will be: "oh, u know nothing abt football! u just watch it to check out the cute players!" Of course, i don't deny that i check out the cute players, but i'm 200% about my footie !!! And i won't let any stereotypes stop me from enjoying it ! So there I was, a guy on the internet for about a year, adding people to my msn who would call me dude, and bro.. and above all who respect my footie opinions.. But i just got fed up of being someone i clearly wasn't.. and that people didn't repect me for who i was.. so i just quit the board, changed my msn and just disappeared.. I just felt that maybe if i told them the truth from the beginning, none of that would have happened, i lost so many friends for a lie.. Now i can't even go back and register as me and start over, coz they will just recognize me.. it's so obvious.. I still from time to time enter the site and read what they're writing, and i just mis that..  |
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Have you ever seen two people at the same time? Have you managed to balance two relationships or has it blown up in your face??? Confess all in the Mulan Temple ;D ;D ;D
) and last weekend, when I went to a club with my froends, i ran into my ex, which I haven't seen for almost 6 months.... we started talking and dancing and it was really nice, comortable.... My friends were warning me, don't do it, you know what's gonna happen if you continue this, and I was like, nooooo, everything is under control (i thought so, but sometimes you just can't think clearly, after a couple (a lot 
) and he just left when the other arrived! When I opened the door to let him in, he kissed me like he never, ever did, I was thinking WTF is happening! In the car, when we went to the beach, i was a little quiet, he asked me what is wrong, and i told him that I had a hangover...... we had a really nice long walk and then we stopped to relax on the beach, we started to relax, talk and kiss and .... 
ha ha ha, at least I like to think so. 
. And I'm happy that she did. 
